Yesterday on The Buzz, apart from Kris saying goodbye to The Buzz, she admitted to the public that for her, the marriage with James Yap is over. A lot of things have already been said and written about the Kris Aquino and James Yap Split. But among them, it was the article by Gerry Plaza on Yahoo Philippines that I found worth reading.
Sizing up the Kris and James Split
Just imagine you are James Yap and your wife Kris Aquino not only speaks about trouble in your marriage but also announces that it is over on national television. Could you take it?
You may have just fixed your gym bag and prepare for your scheduled PBA game for the day against the Barako Energy Coffee Masters. Then you could have received a text or read a tweet, “Kris says it’s over on ‘The Buzz’.” Then you ponder those nearly five years of marriage, just 13 days short, since that secret wedding on July 10, 2005.
It would seem 500 years.
But of course, you have your faults. Admitting to getting “close” to female fans even though you know very well the history of your marriage, which includes allegations of infidelity, and the nature of your wife who would not take any such report sitting down, this really means you know you had it coming. But do you really abhor expecting that “dreaded” day of June 27 and feel you’ve lost all you’ve got?
Hardly. In fact, you may have jumped the gun a few days earlier with this reported reaction to your wife’s leaving your marital home with her kids in tow: “Whatever her decision is, I’ll accept.”
Before Kris’ big announcement on her final appearance on “The Buzz” on Sunday, June 27, it seemed James himself has also given up. It wouldn’t take a master linguist or a psychiatrist to read between the lines. He knows what the “big misunderstanding” was, why Kris and the kids left, and how seemingly gargantuan the odds were in patching up the differences: leaving it up to Kris? Definitely, a no-brainer.
For me, if indeed the Kris and James marriage is over, it’s tragic yet predictable. With a history of controversy casting dark clouds over the horizon, who would not expect the current circumstances, or the admitted troubles that have taken their toll, would not potentially end their marriage? Anyone watching the Sunday talk shows would know how Kris tried hard to save their marriage, even go through a difficult pregnancy, and endure intrigues of infidelity. But was too much information reported on the media about their relationship overwhelmed the husband? Again, if you were James could you have taken the media blitz after media blitz of the nitty-gritty details of everything that has been going on in your marriage?
If you ask me, I couldn’t have handled it. But, if I were James, I would always know that talk is priceless. What is her Queen of All Media tag for? She should have some skill in at least arriving at a solution to a marital woe—that is, of course, if the other party would communicate or at least be willing to sit down and listen. Maybe that’s the rub: time to communicate. Kris, with her all-out support for brother and president elect Noynoy Aquino that kept her in a rigorous and unforgiving campaign schedule and her usual back-to-back show biz commitments, and James, with his career as one of the top professional basketball players in the country, may not even have the time to decide what’s for breakfast.
But the problem was before them and unfortunately, and tragically, it led to Kris’ intention to call it quits. The question is, if she and James talked and decided to keep any information about their marriage away from the public as much as possible, ask Boy Abunda to mind his own business, and let the healing proceed, would June 27 be yet another slow showbiz news day?
Maybe.
But for James, if knocking down 18 points to lead all scorers for the Derby Ace Llamados in a win that sealed a playoff date with San Miguel Beer in the PBA Fiesta Cup was any indication on the same day Kris says she has given up on their marriage, it shows he may not have cared at all.
